Freeing Our Children from Societal Expectations|
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Set Your Kids Free!'s LiveJournal:
|Thursday, November 10th, 2005|
Hi! This is my first post on here, so I'll introduce myself first: My name is Kelly, and my daughter, Aria, will be 14 months on the 19th. I'm expecting #2
on March 23, and we didn't find out if it's a boy or girl.
So, I was wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this:
Everyone, it seems like, says that girls are so much harder than boys, especially in the teenage years, because they are so "emotional" and "moody." Do you think this is true? Is it just because it's okay for girls to be emotional, so they express themselves more? Or do you think it's the different way that puberty hits boys and girls (more all-at-once for girls and kinda spread out for boys)? Or do you think this is total crap, and they're not really that different after all? I was just wondering what everyone else thinks.
|Tuesday, November 8th, 2005|
request from someone on my fl for good links for baby clothes that aren't gendered or just plain cheezy/gross.
i used to have a good list of links, but my computer has been torn apart and built back up since then.
share your favorite links! i'm sure there aren't that many mommies on her fl so i've got to represent, folks.
|Thursday, November 3rd, 2005|
|Thursday, July 28th, 2005|
What a great idea for a community. My name is Amy and me and my partner Travis have a beautiful little 8 week old boy named Jimmy.
I first started thinking of gender expectations and how I would raise my children way back in my first year of university (I focussed on gender and sexuality studies within my Soc/Anth major). In my second yr of uni I watched a french movie called "ma vie en rose" (GREAT movie btw) in a gender studies class and it forced me to really think about how I would raise my son/daughter, especially if they toyed with gender expectations as much as I did. Now, I have graduated and find myself prepared with the intellectual tools that I need to raise my son with gender neutral child rearing - but I look forward to all of the realities of doing so :P
Anyhoo, I look forward to meeting you all :)
|Sunday, July 24th, 2005|
How to dress
My toddler is 1.5 years old. We (should I say 'I') have very rarely dressed her in dresses or skirts - I can only think of three times ever. We get a lot of our clothes bought by my mum from charity shops which is fine by us! The ones we do buy tend to be basic hardwearing kinda stuff which usually ends up being t-shirts and boy's trousers, more because these seem to suit her little lifestyle as a little adventurer :) I very rarely if ever wear skirts or dresses myself and am acutely aware I am transferring this to my daughter.
I am very aware of gender stereotypes and consciously make an effort not to categorise her because she is a girl - for example she has cars and old transformers (daddy's old toys LOL) that she loves to play with as well as teddy bears - and now I am thinking about it she doesn't actually have any dolls. I suspect that at this rate she is going to grow up somewhat of a tomboy - I am not the most feminine of women, I'm not masculine but I don't partake in the usual female-attributed pastimes, getting dressed up, putting on make-up, doing my hair or any of that so she won't really have that influence but that's not a bad thing is it?
|Thursday, July 21st, 2005|
Well, I just joined up and thought I'd toss out a thought I had reading the invite post in the homeschooling community.
I don't dress my son in a dress, per se, but he often wears long tunics, which a lot of people think are dresses. And un-tartaned kilts the same way. But he doesn't care, because he gets to pick the fabrics and decorate them the way he prefers. It also helps that we belong to an organisation that regularly dresses in period clothes, and are joining another in the fall that dresses in pioneer trapper regalia.
As far as girls go, my daughter got her hair whacked off because she wasn't taking care of her long locks (even though she wanted to grow it out like Rapunzel). Turns out she loves it, because it got rid of all her straggly baby hair, it's cooler, and it's much easier for her to maintain. As much as I hate seeing short hair (on both genders), it's really her choice. Just as it was my son's to get his whacked off after working so long to grow it out.
I think it helps kids grow up without a lot of prejudices (and I'm going to lump common sense and gentility in there too) to have them engaged in a wide variety of extracurricular activities, preferably involving the whole family or as much as possible. We just recently joined the historical reenactment group, but I really admire the caliber of acceptance and basic human dignity I have observed. I can sense that by having fun playing with the SCA, and making sure my kids are surrounded by ideologies and behaviours I want fostered in them. Along with that comes early education in tact...which is not easy with all kids LOL.